Dating as a single parent can be extremely difficult! Between dance rehearsal, soccer practice, work, going to the gym, and socializing with your friends, finding that special someone can be the last thing on your mind. But single parents need some personal time too. In fact, single parents are dating more than singles without kids. Which means you have no excuse! So how’s a busy parent to jump into the water without getting bruised? Here’s the Lowdown.

First off, don’t go overboard talking about the kids! You’re getting to know him or her, not their kids or vice versa. There is more to you or your date than Jimmy’s potty training or Molly’s first finger painting. So get to know the other person’s likes and dislikes, their hobbies, and what makes them tick. That way you’ll have a clearer picture of them as a person and not just as a parent. You can start talking more about your kids on the 3rd or 4th date. BUT, at the same time don't talk act like your childless either! You don't want to fool someone your dating into thinking your sans kids. They are bound to be peeved or at the very least disappointed when they find out the truth. Let them know you’re a proud parent, then seal your lips.

So how do you introduce them to the kiddies? Meeting the family is a big step. You can take one of two approaches. One is to introduce your dates as "friends". This way your kids get used to having different adults come in and out of your life. Of course, that won't work if your kids are older and more perceptive. If that's the case, you can wait until you're serious with someone before introducing them to your children. The only downside is your kids won't get to know the person before you decide to get lock down the relationship. So if your kids and your new lova lovah don’t get along, it might present problems. You know your kids, so at the end of the day you’ll have to make the decision that make sense for your family

As for the date itself, start off small. You're likely pressed for time so why not just go out for coffee? If you start dating a lot you won't have any time for a long, lavish dinner. And if you’re not into you’re date, it allows for a quick exit. Keep it light and fun. Don’t bring up divorce your baby mama/daddy drama. And most importantly, remember to have a good time! Not every person you go out with is going to be a future prospect, but enjoy the moment, keep truckin’, and you’ll likely find the one who is.